In the article

■ different view of distance ■ away from home ■ left at home

■ Making it work ■ Be honest ■ keep communication

■ Beware the reunion anticlimax

■ Different views of distance

How couples cope with being largely depend on how they feel about the separation .here are some common interpretation

● what’s the big deal ? ---if you brought up in a family where absence was the norm, it may be that periods apart no problem.

● it’s the thin end of the wedge---perhaps in your pass someone left staying it was temporary, but didn’t come back you may see a period of separation as the beginning of the end .

● if you love me. you’d stay---love is the linked to being physically near and any threat to that that is also a threat to you emotion security.

● but it’s not for long---it might be your nature to look at left in the long term and see a bigger picture and therefore ,you may find it easier than your partner to see this as a temporary phase of your relationship.

● it’s just not right—if your parents where together nearly all the time ,then absence may simply be beyond your experience being a couple means being together.

■ Making it work

The eky to making a long-distance relationships work is to talk honestly and openly about how you feel.

Couples often fall into one of the following traps.

■ Be honest

Share your feeling about the separation ---both the positives and the negatives. this will give you the opportunity to really understand each other and give the support and reassurance you both need.

■ keep communication

Staying in touch regularly is the key to surviving a long-distance relationship.

■ use a variety of ways of communication---e-mail telephone, text, message, letter, etc.

● send little gifts ---to show how often you think each other.

● Make some surprise calls—make the odd call just to say” I love you”.

● Send regular pictures --- this will help you partner keep a visual record of what you’re up to.

● Keep a diary—then share it with your partner each time you meet.

■ Beware the reunion anticlimax

When you see each other again, change are both of you will have built up great expectations of how fantastic your reunion is going to be however the reality often don’t mach up to the fantasy.

Many couples feel disappointed and frustrated when things aren’t as they’d hoped. You may also find that rather than making love all day there are awkward silences or even arguments.

You can prevent this by making sure you’ve talked about you want the reunion to be and recognizing that the anticipation is often better than trie consummation and remember , it may take time to get used to being around each other again.

Absent can make the heart grow founder when you use the time to show your partner how much they meant to you.